Last updated: 12/2008

LIFETIME

MOVING BEYOND
THE BEDROOM AND THE BODY
for LOVE and LASTING RELATIONSHIPS

Stanley J. Leffew,
Author of "How To
Be Wanted For a
Lifetime of Nights
and Not Just a
Night of a Lifetime"
When it comes to lasting relationships, which of the following have you thought or found yourself asking? (Check the ones that apply to you.)

"Why can't I find someone who wants to share more than just my bed and my body?"
"Just once in my life, why can't I find the kind of sexual relationship that is part of a loving relationship?"
"I see so many couples together, why doesn't it ever seem to happen to me?"
"Why do I seem to always offer so much love but have so little returned?"
"Am I doing something wrong?"
"Why do some people have great relationships and I can't seem to connect?"
"Who is going to love (insert your name)?"

If you checked one or more of the above, the following could be one of the most important letters you ever read.

From the desk of: Stanley J. Leffew
09:07 am - Sugar Land, Texas
Dear Lasting Relationship Seeker,
Have you noticed the following trend?
Hi, my name is ____________, and I am a seeker of a lasting relationship.
Okay, everybody together now.
Hi ___________!
We have all heard this line applied to Alcoholics Anonymous, but you probably never thought you would here it applied to the longing for a lasting relationship.
Now you have, and here's why.
I read a lot about relationships both on and offline. It is a practice I embraced several years ago. However, lately I have been noticing a trend that concerns me. Perhaps you have seen it, too.
If someone, especially if that someone is female, openly admits they long for committed love and lasting relationships, it is almost like admitting an embarrasing addiction or personality flaw. After all, shouldn't we all be self-sufficient and not need anyone else for life enjoyment and fulfillment?
As absurd as that statement would have been a few years back, it is quite common today.
Again I ask, have you noticed this trend?
If we openly declare in any way that we want and seek a lasting relationship, assumptions of being desperate begin to surface in the minds of others, and we are accused of trying to get from others what is lacking in ourselves.
As this letter begins, can I give you permission to have those feelings without any hesitancy at all on your part, as well as give you permission to act on them?
I remember the first time I met my wife. She had just moved from Houston, Texas to Tennessee to assist at a home for troubled girls in the middle of nowhere.
Prior to arriving in Tennessee, she recognized something about herself.
She recognized she longed for and gave herself permission to seek out someone she could have a life-long lasting relationship with, and it wasn't something she found shameful at all.
She was not desperate. She was not needy. She was not full of weaknesses and codependent tendencies.
Do you know what she was? Normal! That's right, Normal!
Since when does the desire for lasting relationships and love constitute abnormalities or weaknesses in someone? It concerns me that guys who have this desire are classified as needing to get in touch with their feminine side and women are branded as desperate.
Here is the real truth.
You are made for connection. It is totally natural for you to have this longing of the heart for a lasting relationship. There is always going to be a longing in the human heart for sharing your deepest self with someone. You were never designed to be a lone ranger, self sufficient and lacking nothing.
While that someone is not capable of satisfying every need of your life, they are capable of adding so much to your life enrichment.
Two weeks after my wife got to Tennessee she put herself in the right places to meet someone. I, for one, am so glad she did.
It took a lot of guts to come by herself to a Super Bowl party for singles in a completely new state where she knew nobody and was unknown to anyone. Because she did this, seven years together and two beautiful children later, here we are sharing how others can create lifetime value in their life and enjoy lasting relationships.
So, go ahead and give yourself permission to be passionate about love and lasting relationships. You may just be surprised where it takes you.

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Have you noticed how much the relationship focus these days seems to be more about the URGE than it is the MERGE?
Have you observed how many are chasing desire and drowning in a sea of recreational sex?
Did you know that the "Sexual Revolution" over the last 60-years has really been more about the longing of the heart for intimacy than it has been about sex?
Have you noticed that we seem to be scratching the wrong itch and making sex THE REASON FOR relationship instead of THE RESULT OF relationship? Many are even excluding relationship all together and embracing more of a "Girls Gone Wild" and Spring Break attitude about the body, sex and love.
Others have allowed sex to become the primary focus for their relationship because society has led them to believe that the ultimate goal of relationships is in the "nighttime". Having built their relationship primarily on heat (sex), these type relationships soon burn out due to lack of substance.
As stated in our opening message above,
Lust Is Not The
Four-Letter Word On Which LASTING
RELATIONSHIPS Are Built
Why should my message about lasting relationships be of interest to you?
Because you can know how to have success KEEPING A RELATIONSHIP and NOT JUST ATTRACTING a relationship
Because you will discover how to sustain a loving relationship and not just start one
Because it shows you how to move beyond the bedroom and the body for the intimacy in life your heart so craves. After all, intimacy is really about IN-TO-ME-SEE
Because it will make a dramatic difference in how you approach relationships and how you achieve success
Because it will help you see why living for the moment is causing so many to miss the lifetime and why TUNING IN will rock your world far more than TURNING ON every time
Because this information can help you to keep your teenage and college age students from chasing the lead-with-the-body focus so prevalent in our culture
Because you can condition your own mind not to embrace the tsunami of misinformation that exists out there about the body, sex and love
Because you can know how to become more of what others LOOK FOR in life and relationships, not just what they LOOK AT
Perhaps, you have been struggling in the area of lasting relationships.
Maybe you are confused by all the misinformation that exists about the body, sex, love and relationships today.
I, too, have stood where you now stand.

For 30+ years I Was Single Trying To Connect
Night of a lifetime relationships were in abundance, and many of the single crowd I knew HAD LOTS OF SEX BUT LITTLE LOVE.
During those years, I was blessed to be surrounded by couples with thriving relationships and observe and discover from them how lasting relationships are really established. I found out a lot during that time about what does and what does not make relationships thrive.
The mentors in my life modeled for me that lasting relationships ARE NOT about CHASING DESIRE but in LIVING FOR THE LONGING. They helped me to see that, when it comes to sex and love, there is A FIRE THAT WARMS and A FIRE THAT BURNS.
My mentors helped me see that lasting relationships were more about building lifetime value into my life and relationships than they were about chasing after nighttime value
I discovered how to filter my relationships through a unique process that helped me better understand and establish lasting relationships. Now, several years into my marriage, this unique process is still what helps my relationship thrive.
I want to reveal how you can do the same and offer you some of the great insight my mentors invested in me. This unique process can help make your relationships thrive whether you are just trying to connect or if you have been in a lasting relationship for years.

LASTING RELATIONSHIPS 101: Never took that class in school. If there had been a class like that for making relationships last, some of you would have joined me and taken it twice.
One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is a proper approach to relationship building.

"This e-book is concise and to the point. It is thought provoking and will make you ask questions of yourself. You will start to examine your own life and relationships and value them deeply. It is well written with insightful information."
Ricky D., -- Married 23-years / One Child Tennessee

If a lasting relationship is what your heart is searching for, read on.
If you want to see why a "lifetime of nights" approach to relationships and love is better than a "night of a lifetime" approach, read on.
If you would like to know the difference between "the fire that warms" and "the fire that burns", please continue.
Stop and think about it.
Are you dating online or offline and trying to connect with your heart and not just your body?
Has committed love and making love last somehow been lost in a mindset of recreational sex?
Are you making relationships more about passion than promise and being seduced by an over-emphasis on the bedroom and the body?
Do you find it easy to attract a relationship but hard to keep a relationship?

"I lost the printed version of this e-book to my teenage daughter upon bringing it home. She wouldn't give it back until she had read it from cover to cover."
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The fires of passion and sex burn hot in the world around us. Chasing desire seems to be a common theme in the world today. Music videos, the Internet, TV shows, movies, magazines and books often have one common theme, the feeding of desire. Our society has indeed become preoccupied with sex, and more and more are getting caught in the web of deception that chasing desire creates.
What are the effects?
Children disillusioned by parental infidelity
Teenagers and College students confused and buying into the craze of "Girls Gone Wild" actions being where body dignity is found
The lonely and heart-broken housewife struggling to find intimacy and measure up to the blonde bombshells of her husband's pornography enthusiasm and addiction
Women struggling to be valued by our culture as more than sex objects
Men struggling so much with the strongholds of lust and desire that they can't walk by a display of magazines without feeling the tug
And then along comes someone like me stating, "It is better to be wanted for a lifetime of nights and not just a night of a lifetime." Along comes someone like me extolling value in the marriage union. Along comes someone like me with a message that "turning-on" may be elevated over and over again in the world around us, but "tuning-in" is what the heart really longs for.
"Tuning-in" to the longing of the human heart for intimacy!
"Tuning-in" to the longing of the heart for companionship!
"Tuning-in" to the longing of the heart for love, acceptance, compatibility and oneness!
How about you? Is your focus in life and relationships more about "turning-on" or "tuning-in"?
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I saved it on my machine and I will read it over and over again until I can remember most of it. Once again, may God richly bless you!
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Find out for yourself why the popular trend of chasing desire and "night of a lifetime" relationships fails to satisfy the longing of the heart for love, companionship, oneness and intimacy.
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What four-letter word lasting relationships are built on (it's not what you might think) (see pgs. 45-46)
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Why HEAT (sex) should be the RESULT of relationship instead of the REASON for relationship (see pg 52)
Why LIVING FOR THE MOMENT with our bodies is causing so many to MISS THE LIFETIME (see pgs. 16-18)
Why being seduced by an over-emphasis on the bedroom and the body is hurting us (see pgs. 52-56)
Why so many are getting "burned by the heat" (see pgs. 50-56)
Why "tuning in" will rock your world far more than "turning on" every time (see pgs. 67-70)
Why BEING NAKED WITH A PIG is a recipe for some serious pain (see pgs. 91-92)
Why the Must-Be-Perfect-To-Be-My-Love-Interest syndrome is keeping so many people single, lonely and alone (see pgs.80-83)
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Why the approach to life's dating challenge should be "I would rather fail at something than succeed at nothing" (see pgs. 85-86)
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MORE ABOUT HEAT THAN HEART
Have you found the following to be true?
Cleavage, short skirts, body piercing, sensual tattoos and suggestive conversations abound and clearly show that ours is a culture focused on our sexual appetite more than lasting relationships
Our focus on relationships is more about heat than heart and we find it easier to pass out condoms than convictions
More and more women are being depicted as getting their value from being full-of-brandy-eye-candy and toys-for-boys

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I wanted to let you know that your information and advice is suitable for people of all ages.
Thanks from a 52 yr. old."
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A Fraction Of The Attraction Doesn't Lead To Satisfaction
If you ever wonder why you seem to be able to attract a relationship but struggle keeping a relationship, if you are tired of relationships built around body image and a lead-with-the-body focus, if you would like to enjoy lasting relationships that are more about "tuning in" than just "turning on", this resource is for you.
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Being wanted for a night of a lifetime cannot compare to the joy of being wanted for a lifetime of nights. The heart really does long to connect.
Stay true to your heart,
Stanley J. Leffew

Give Your Relationships
The Gift Of
LIFETIME VALUE

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